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Donna: Getting addicts into treatment should be the number one goal of any program. The more addicts that are successfully treated, the higher the reduction ...

Bill: Hi AJ, Great to hear from you, and that you are doing OK. I've recommended Undrunk to several people, even a couple of bleedin' deacons I was sure...

AJ Adams: Hi Bill, Just came across your very nice comments on Undrunk -- thanks a lot. My sobriety date is Oct 2006 and so I had a bit more than that first yea...

Steve E: Forgot to add to the "patience and tolerance" lines...while I say that to People, they keep pushing in front of me. At one store I was still in line a...

Steve E: Patience: I might as well stop before I start, because it is..."never in a man." LOL! Actually, I've got enough of it now that I can give some awa...

Jeanie: I am so glad to read that you are experiencing real joy again. I hope it infects you and your family more until you are full to the brim. Well done y...

Donna: Thank you for sharing your relapse. It reminds us all of how powerful drug addiction is and how easy it is to succumb to temptation. By letting other ...

Steve E: Eli, I feel as if we "know" one another enough that I may write without sounding condescending--or like a "teacher". I'm just another sober alcoholic...

Lexie: Incidentally, Al-Anon (and, I assume, Nar-Anon) is GREAT for "straightening out" families and friends of alcoholics and addicts! Kept me from losing ...

Lexie: I've been on both sides of an alcohol problem (that of others, for many years, until my own drinking passed the point of no return), and I never liked...

kelly: You are obviously both bright and brave. Thanks for sharing with us, here, and getting that off of your chest. I would be the codependent in my si...

Eli Hornby: Oh and by the way it's only 11:45 pm here on the West coast - late but not THAT late!...

Eli Hornby: Wow Dolly, I sure hear your hurt and betrayal here. It's late and I'm very tired, so I won't try to say too much right now, but I'll work on a post to...

Bridgette Torre: Thanks for your post, and your blog. There are a number of different treatment programs and approaches to support people suffering from substance abus...

Alix: Thinking of you, and extending empathy. I lost my father last year. I am very glad you have a family for support and warmth. My condolences....

Sponsoring

Nov 19, 08
(by Syd)
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Family and Friends, Pros and Pro's

“Being a sponsor has been an important part of my recovery from growing up with alcoholism. In fact, as a sponsor I never give as much as I get…When I have the privilege of hearing the secret of a sponsee expected to carry in silence for a lifetime, I am reminded of how relieved I was to finally lay down the burden of my secrets with my sponsor…In becoming a sponsor, I cultivate a listening heart for others as well as for myself.”..Hope for Today – August 23.

There are no musts in Al-Anon, except the purpose states that you are…

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Another sponsee gone

I got a call from a sponsee last night. He started about 4 weeks ago with me. He seemed willing and wanting to work but for a couple of weeks I had begun to notice that he wasn’t doing much of what was suggested.

I like to have daily contact with a sponsee for a while. That happened at first but then there would only be a call if he was down. And then there was the reading of the first four chapters of the BB. That wasn’t happening nor was he reading over the printed material that I had given…

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Working with others

Sep 13, 08
(by Syd)
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Family and Friends

There is a chapter in the Big Book of AA that addresses working with those who drink, basically with the idea of practicing the Twelfth Step. From reading this chapter, I’ve thought about some of the co-dependence issues that face spouses and parents of the alcoholic or addict.

What the BB says is that we don’t waste time trying to persuade people to stop their destructive behavior if they don’t want to stop. This is where detachment with love is necessary. We have to practice our Step One in Al-Anon to realize that we are powerless and that no amount of…

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