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Detachment Problem.

If you were falling, then I would catch you
You need a light, I’d find a match
Cuz I love the way you say good morning
And you take me the way I am
If you are chilly, here take my sweater
Your head is aching; I’ll make it better
Cuz I love the way you call me baby
And you take me the way I am
I’d buy you Rogaine when you start losing all your hair
Sew on patches to all you tear
Cuz I love you more than I could ever promise
And you take me the way I am
You take me the way I am
You take me the way I am

I’m struggling with something about detachment. Over the last few weeks, I’ve gotten good at detaching from my husband, but I’m not sure that I’ve been detaching with love. It’s something I expect to be working on over the next few weeks.

He has not been feeling the love from me, which culminated in his recent explosive anger. I heard this Ingrid Michaelson song earlier today, and it hurt me a bit. I used to be such an ever-flowing teat of love and forgiveness and affection and nurturing for my husband, and I haven’t been lately. It’s healthy for me to detach, but I think there are better ways than throwing the pillow over my head when I hear him in the bathroom groaning.

I don’t know what to do with myself.

Tags: detachment, Nar-Non, The Junky's Wife