Meditation
Oct 31, 08- (by Syd)
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I also read about some very basic ideas on self confidence that can help me get away from self pity:
-Open your heart to someone (Step Five) and through trusting you will build self-confidence. If I cannot accept myself as being human, how can I ever accept and trust others? If I cannot accept and trust others, how can I respect and love them? If I cannot respect and love others, how can they respect and love me?
-Keep a positive attitude about people and situations.
-Be compassionate towards others
-Accept that life is not perfect and neither am I. If I let the fear of making mistakes control my life, I could not do anything at all but lead a completely useless life.
-Give up unrealistic expectations of myself and others
-Take action in order to improve. Self-confidence comes from being challenged to one’s limits, meeting them and then setting new limits
-Remember that the dark times don’t last and will go away
-Maintain a sense of humor and don’t take myself too seriously
-Make a positive commitment that I can keep
-Spirituality is going beyond our self and self-interested focusing, it requires courage, independence, faith in our own potential as a human being.
” Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers,
but to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain,
but for the heart to conquer it.
Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved,
but for the patience to win my freedom.”
Shantideva
A protector for those without protection
A guide for those who have lost their way
A ship for those with oceans to cross
A bridge for those with rivers to cross
A sanctuary for those in danger
A lamp for those without light
A place of refuge for those who lack shelter
And a servant to all in need.”
His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama
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I love that DH Lawrence quote, but I’ve always wondered how he knew what the wild things were feeling.
I hope you figure out what’s troubling you and can let it go. You seem to have the right attitude. Or maybe you just need to be a Wild Thing for a bit. Could be fun.
I love that quote as well and everything else you quoted, suggested, wrote was helpful for me today.
Thanks Syd. I recently read a book called The Story of B by Daniel Quinn. One thing that resonated with me was the authors take on kindness. He used the parable:
Two goats each have calfs. One goat dies and its calf turns to the remaining goat and asks to suckle. The goat says No.
Is that cruel?
If the goat had said Yes, neither calf would have the proper nutrition it needed to develop. The so called act of kindness that we humans hold in such high regards would actually hurt the calfs more. The remaining goat can only make milk for one, and so each calf would only get halg the nourishment it needs.
I refer to this because moral is similar to the Lawrence quote.