Change.
Oct 18, 08- (by JunkysWife)
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There is something going on with my husband, and I’m not sure what. He’s got a lot of opportunities facing him in terms of work. He’s gotten all of these opportunities on his own, and he seems to be doing a good job of suiting up and showing up for all the projects he’s found. It’s nothing steady yet, but it’s the kind of situation where one gig leads to another, which leads to another and another. If he doesn’t blow it, it might just turn out to be a great thing.
It is possible that a lot of his crappiness in recent weeks might be a reaction to all this opportunity. He often sabotages himself, so it would make sense that he’s pushing himself up against some big personal barriers.
I struggle a bit because I’ve been burned so many times when I’ve gotten hopeful about the future. One difference this time, though, is that I’ve been hands-off in all aspects of this work. The jobs that he’s blown off over the last year have all been connected to my endeavoring to get him work. I’ve learned not to put my name on the line in getting him work, as he’s not going to be able to start working until he’s ready, and he’ll find the right opportunity for himself when he is. He seems to be doing it now, and I’m trying to keep my hands out of it. It’s kind of like a top that’s spinning on its own with its own centrifugal force. If I stick my finger in there and try to make it spin better, faster, different…I’m going to mess it up.
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